Cause and Effect - What CC is being taught in the USA
Email Dec 22, 2007 from CC
i dont really know what to say about what you wrote about my parents. honestly, i feel defensive right now (feeling words! yay! haha) and want to give you a long speech about how theyre good parents and stuff... but i wont. cuz i know itll just make you hate them even more. lol.
but i will just say that i dont believe my parents are the reason i have social anxiety and depression at all. i believe that they are disorders and are triggered by a combination of chemical imbalances and my enviornment. and i have more proof for that than my therapist told me so, lol. but once again i wont get into it...
This was in response to my journal writing
here is another word which is used to control and oppress the teens: Privileges
a teen (cc) wrote me and said she had talked to one of her prison wardens and she might not get her "privleges taken away". Which means she might not get punished. What her wardens call "privileges" wouldn't be "privileges" if they weren't given legal authority over her, with the power to call the police on her if she tries to get away from them.
this teen now may actually feel grateful to her wardens and captors for their kindness and understanding rather than reseenting them for abusing their power over her. she might not see it as abuse at all. she might be convinced, like so many teens around the world, that everthing they do is for her own good. she might not realize why she is in pain and what her own needs are. they will do everything possible so she will never be aware of the truth. they don't want her to know how she feels or realize that the pain she feels is a reflection of what she lacks, and they are the prime reason she lacks it.
so we can say another way parents, teachers and authority figures confuse and oppress us is by calling our needs "privileges". I can gurantee you that in emotionally healthy families that word is not used, at least not in that way. Just like in emotionally healthy families belts and electrical cords are not used to hit children and teens. In Peru my ex gf Laura was hit with a belt when she was 22 years old, by the way
Her parents are using the idea of "privileges" to get her to do what they want her to. One thing they want her to do is get certain grades at school. If she doesn't they threaten to "take away her privileges."
But what they call a privilege is something which helps stop her emotional pain.
So one question is where is her emotional pain coming from? What is the cause?
Another question is, do we want to give parents the legal power to take away someone's way of stopping their pain? (Assuming that it is A) a completely legal method, such as listening to music, going for a walk, talking to or hugging a friend, writing in their journal and B) it is not something unhealthy for them such as using addictive drugs)